Which isn't really all that surprising to me. What is surprising is why wifesharing, hotwifing, cuckolding, MFM threesomes, and anything else involving a woman being sexual with more than one man is still seen as being so wrong and taboo in our society. Even though it's more common to fantasize about female partners being with other men than to not, neither men nor women are usually very eager to admit as much for a host of reasons. You're more likely to be met with a shoulder shrug if you say that you think FMF is appealing.
Perhaps most significantly, the cited study found that cuckolding actually tends to be positive, both in fantasy and behavior.
"Overall, our research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behavior," said [clinical psychologist and author of Insatiable Wives, David] Ley. "It doesn't appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one's partner."
Not that the practice is for everyone, of course. But I feel like that can almost go without saying, even if the benefit for me is obvious.
The article and study cited within it also highlights some of the most common reasons for finding cuckolding to be appealing, which I also discussed in a previous post. Namely, the taboo factor tends to be highly important as it bucks the normative standard of a society that idealizes monogamy. But it also creates an opportunity to engage in voyeurism, presents a novel experience, and uses the emotion of watching your partner be pleased by someone else to enhance the connection and eroticism.
As Dan Savage puts it: "It's not cuckolding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation or denial. Our erotica imaginations have the ability to turn shame lemons into delicious kink lemonade."
I'm not sure I would put it quite like that, but I certainly get it.
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